Braveheart Vanaja Vasudev
Among the other comments, a girl named Vanaja Vasudev came clean of her feelings as a sexual human being on Facebook.
“Vanaja wrote on her Facebook wall that she enjoyed looking at handsome men, whom she saw on the streets or in other public places.
She also said that it was quite natural for men and women to look at each other. She even said that she sometimes felt good when some men looked at her.”
Just for being bona fide, Vanaja was abused, her views, met with obscene messages from men asking for sex, even her rates to sleep with them.
Any other girl would have caved in and broken down by now but not Vanaja Vasudev. She made a Facebook comeback so strong that leaves one reflecting why we should not judge a person superficially, a thing Indians are so fond of doing, especially at females. Here is the excerpt of Vanaja’s reply which was originally written in Malayalam:
“Let me introduce myself….
From where should I begin? I was an introvert, a quiet girl who always walked with her eyes to the ground. I did not spoke to anyone, walked alone always, I was scared of everything.
In childhood my dreams were about having a full stomach and wearing good clothes. My father died when I was in Class 5. My mother struggled to make up for his absence. At the time, I hated everything around me, and our relatives abandoned us. Mother fed me and my brother by starving herself.
The loneliness made my mother short tempered. She had hit me with sticks until they broke and I did not understand why I was beaten. At night, when she thought I was asleep, she would come near me and cry, softly touching the welts on my body.
I used to cry all night those days. Early morning I would go to the neighbouring houses to sell milk. Through the windows, I saw children of my age sleeping in their rooms.
We sold eggs also to make living, but neither I nor my brother had the fortune of tasting it. We would wait for the day our mother got her pension, when she bought good food for us.
Being a widow, my mother starved and raised us. Even at that time people were worried about whether my mother would have an illicit relationship. I hate this fake morality then and now.
After completing my polytechnic course at 19, I came to Ernakulam in search of a job. I did many jobs day and night and studied until my post-graduation. I was all alone in my journey, had fallen many times, but picked myself up. When I rise from each fall, I grew more confident.
I was tired of crying, finally I scaled greater heights. My hatred changed to love. I started loving the world and saw it with a broad mind. I began to smile and talk to people.
I say all this to my brothers who have come to teach me Bharth Samskar in my inbox. You even spoke about my private parts and claim that you are teaching me culture. Why do you take class about dignity while inviting me to share your bed? → This! Perfect comeback for machas who say they are protecting Indian culture by liking vandi pages.
I have said that I used to look at boys. It doesn’t mean that I would come anywhere you called and remove my clothes. Don’t think that I am not replying to the inbox messages because of my inability.
I am a daughter of my mother who lived with dignity even in extreme poverty. With a lot of hard work I am independent. Your abusive words can no longer trouble me.
If you have read what was written above, do you dare to fix a rate for my dignity? If yes, please comment below this post and not in inbox.”
Now, do you see why Indians need to stop judging its female units? Women are people with stories - stories that are not yours to judge. PV Sindhu wore a short dress to play badminton and win a medal. That’s one story of a girl in short dress you know hence you respect her despite her dress being ‘against’ of the Indian culture you cite. But what do you know about the girl who wore a short dress for a party for you to judge her as per Indian culture? She could be a debate champion, a math whiz or a volunteer at a soup kitchen or SPCA - she might be a better human being than you. She might have helped more people than you. Point is, you don’t know her story so please stop judging!
To Vanaja, thank you for this babe. KK just got inspired to soldier on!
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