Permissive lifestyle and marriage

Recently, there is a spate of memes suggesting that if meenachis can make round dosas or biryani, machas should marry them. This suggests a trend that implies only home bounded girls who can cook and clean are worth to be married - the KKVs (Kudumba Kutthu Vilakku)

It’s a known fact that many machas from KL and other urban areas go to backwater areas in search of a ponnu (bride) to get married. Many even go to Tamil Nadu in search of ponnu. These machas are, often, 2nd hand - 12th hand rubbish (well since you call meenachis who slept with you so, it’s only right for you to be called so as well) and they are scared out of their wits that they have to marry a girl who is no longer a virgin. Because they have done all the shit they expect their future wife not had done and because if they search for wife in their area, their vandavalam, thandavalam (sordid background) will be exposed.

For many moons, it had been drilled into us on how men only date women who dress skimpily, drink, smoke and has no qualms having sex but only marry girls who sit at home and is prudish, forcing girls to believe that if they are to get married, they should and shouldn’t do certain things. It’s true but one thing I can’t understand is, why the latter girls should accept a prurient and hypocritical ass as their husband? Is it their fate? If you can choose a homely, untouched and STDs, particularly HIV clear girls, then girls also can do the same.

And, there are girls too, who carry STDs and might infect the man they marry. These are the girls men who sleep around avoid from marrying. And these girls may go on to marry guys who didn’t sow their wild oats. Having sex without precaution sampai ada STD is probably the stupidest thing one can do, you know. But, even protection is not 100% reliable.

So, in this circulation, you can’t trust anyone. Everyone has a dark past and apathy and in the issue of having STDs, it can be clarified by a simple blood test. Almost every Indian focus on nambikai (trust) and shit and forget that life, once ruined by blind trust, can never be reversed.

By testing and if it’s positive, the calling off of marriage doesn’t necessarily need to happen - with correct and timely treatment, the diseases can be cured, controlled or inhibited so that it won’t infect the other spouse and kids. That takes love and trust as well and require a much stronger dose and the spread of the disease can be curbed as opposed to not telling despite having led ‘a laissez faire’ life prior to marriage and symptoms, not getting diagnosed and treated.

This idea may seem radical for our Indians but it saves lives for many more generations to come. We make mistakes as human beings but when there are means to rectify the mistakes and not make further mistakes that will destroy the lives of others, why not take them?