Why looking for a virgin wife/husband is stupid

Many machas now are totally agitated because several Chennai girls voiced out their preference - whether they want a virgin and fresh partner or a non virgin, experienced partner.

Okay, just before I start on the topic, let me just ask all the machas who denigrated the girls who said they want an experienced partner. Dei, nenje thottu sollunga, ithu nyayama? Nyayama Da? (Dudes, say honestly, is this fair? IS THIS FAIR? To search a virgin guy nowadays is like searching for an atom in the universe and you’re getting offended because the girls said they want an experienced partner? Ni kes cakap tak serupa bikin. When you’re offended because girls said they want an experienced partner then you need to stop pestering your gf for sex and stop going to red light areas and mostly tahan the gatalness of the ding dong bell of yours until after marriage - how many guys are like that?. Sex um gf ode senjikanum, ponnunga yaarum virgin ille num kude thuppu ippo ponnunga experienced partner venum nu sonnalum thappu. Ippadi na naange eppadi vandiye otturathu? (Must have sex with gf, girls aren’t virgins so condemn now girls asking experienced partner is also wrong? How are we supposed to be on our way if like this?)

But, machas conclude that a girl who had had premarital sex or has been in a relationship as a bad girl. Now machas consider that girls who want experienced partners as bad girls - machas in the constitution of the institution of the discombobulation.

See, virginity is oru paisaku pirojinam ille (not worth a penny). It vanishes in minutes - you might say that this invasion of budaya kuning defiles our culture. I agree that we trying to westernise ourselves by having premarital sex is not something wise but at the same time, we don’t bother other western cultures like not littering, not spitting in public, flushing the public toilet, etc that actually will elevate our culture. Duk ambik yang keruh je.

Ok, now, if I was asked whether I want a fresh partner or an experienced partner, my answer would be what kind of stupid question is that seriously? Why is virginity even a matter to be heavily considered, and fretted upon as though our whole lives depend on it? Ok, let me put it very simply - in cases of arranged marriages, our parents never correlate virginity with being good on behalf of their search for a son-in-law/daughter-in-law.

Last year, there was a meme on a Malaysian Indian page - 15 years ago, parents looked for good boys for their daughters. Now, parents are looking for good girls for their sons. A girl needs a guy with a good future. A guy needs a girl with a good past. The word ‘good’ referred to the girls is entirely proportioned to being virgin. Machas loved the posts. They were going into raptures as though they won a Nobel prize. At the same time, machas ridicule girls who are still virgin as outdated. This is machas’ trick to fuck meenachis then blame meenachis for not being Indian cultured and for opening her legs at prompts from machas.

As for me, I don’t give a damn whether or not my partner is a virgin or not. All I need in my machan is the quality of working side by side with me to develop a life together. I want him to be well educated, industrious, constantly evolving and reinventing, a trend setter with a lot of quality of life augmenting ideas, practical ones, respects women and gives me my personal space.
I advice machas to look for qualities like responsible, street smart, independent, sensible, caring, able to elevate socioeconomic status in a wife rather than a virgin wife. Because, her virginity ain’t gonna run your house, make homemade meals for you, wash, fold and iron your clothes, take your mom/dad to hosp coz you’re busy, go to the market and stock up the fridge and basically do everything. Her virginity is simply useless.

Machas who focus so much on the vagina of girls actually are almost always karat - jobless, worthless and simply waste. The only way they can feel superior and weighty is by denigrating girls. I’ve been observing this from my school days - those boys from the lowest rung are the loudest and most prominent. The boys from high ranks blend with their books and show 0 bravado. This hasn’t changed to this day.

Personally, I don’t support premarital sex. At the same time, I don’t want to thrust my perspective on others. If you fuck then get fucked up, it’s your problem, not mine. I can only suggest - it’s up to you whether you want to take it aboard or jettison it.

So, machas and meenachis, the past of your partner need not be relived. Everyone would have loved then failed - it’s not fair to judge someone over something they can’t change. The only thing that matters is whether your partner is loyal to you now. And, please don’t do the ‘love panna saavadi, play panna pei adi’ shit. Then PDRM will give you police adi.

The only thing that needs to be clarified is whether you have STDs due to your ‘past’. Prenuptial medical checkup is critical. Come clean - people with HIV are leading normal, healthy and long lives. Medicine has advanced so much. Don’t do the ‘En mele nambikai illaiya?’ (Don’t you trust me?) shit. If you didn’t fuck around there’s nothing to be afraid of. If you did fuck around, be honest about it to the doctor - the doc will keep it confidential and give due treatment if necessary. Break the pandemic - don’t infect your wife/husband and child. We already wrote about this.

- Soodu Sorna - #OnlyAtKK