Dating expenses - meenachis, don’t be sexist, you chip in as well

Okay now, school boys who’se jatti is sponsored by parents and schoolgirls who are yet to know how to manage your periods properly, go do your homework - this ain’t for you. This is for those machas and meenachis who are making their own cheddar who are in the right-age love scene.

In the quest for gender equality, the onus on female is often conveniently forgotten. It is true that women are more the victims in our patriarchal society but sometimes patriarchy backfires as well.

Please meenachis, if you’re earning as well, don’t expect your macha bf pay for your every meal and outing together - paying for dates is not something reserved for males. Don’t use patriarchy to your advantage just because you can capitalize on it by creating a scene that if you pay for dates, your bf is less than a man, cheap and is an eunuch. You’re cheap because despite earning, you don’t whip out your wallet when it comes to paying the bill. You’re cheap and a hypocrite because despite believing in gender equality and wanting it, you’re not ready to play the equal role.

Also, machas if a meenachi wants to pay, let her pay - you’re not emasculated if you let your lady love pay on dates. But, just don’t be a scrounge, cadging your gf for money by lying that you’ve got no money to eat, capitalizing on her love for you.

Or, go Dutch - "Going Dutch" is a term that indicates that each person participating in a group activity pays for themselves, rather than any person paying for anyone else, particularly in a restaurant bill. It is also called Dutch date, Dutch treat (the oldest form) and "doing Dutch".

Dutch date is perhaps the most befitting form of striking the dating balance. You paying for your own expenses is perhaps the best gender equalizer in the dating scene.

Also, don’t expect so called gentlemanly gestures - him opening the car door, pulling the chair out for you to sit, etc. You’ve got upper limbs - you can do those yourself. You have to contribute to gender equality too - it works both ways.