Independent, strong and successful women and how machas put them down

Recently I came across a macha who insisted that all women would take the easy out to earn money - selling their bodies for as little as RM 50. He asked which woman would earn the hard straight way? When I said, “Unga amma epdi?” (how about your mother?) he got livid. And when I pointed out that he said all women, he started attacking my stature, that I must be selling my body for anjikum patthukum (5 pence and 10 pence)

Yes, many of our machas out there have this incredibly negative perception on headstrong, independent and successful meenachis who are also outspoken and clear in what they want. These machas resort to ridiculing these meenachis as not independent and strong but bitchy and bossy. And, as admins of KK, we keep stumbling upon machas who resort to ad hominem in the name of countering us.

In that scene of the meme, the character says that women can’t be wholly dependent and if they try to, they’re not KKVs - Kudumba Kuthu Villakus. The character says that women who want to be self reliant are not suitable for family as they will be arrogant and non compliant as well as never content. The movie may have been released in the 70s but even in 2016, many machas are still stuck in that sort of mindset. Worse they think women aren’t capable of reaching heights without making some ‘compromises’. “She must have slept with her boss to get that promotion.” “She probably slept with her lecturer to get that high CGPA.” This is how these machas think and believe.

Not only girls are reliant on their parents since birth, guys too rely on providers to grow up. These days, one of the criteria for marriage for girls is job - due to rising cost of living. Both husband and wife need to go to work to make ends meet. Even if a meenachi is a stay home wife, she doesn’t keep quiet. She searches for other means to rake in extra income. I know many housewives who teach tuition, bake, have a home based salon and beauty parlor, etc. Many do Forex or freelance online by developing their web design, online marketing and SEO skills.
How about Indian single mothers who'se husband left them out on a limb? Aren't they independent? This is coming from a child raised by a single mom in her growing up years after my father was unable to work. She also took care of my dad with me pitching in when he fell ill up to his death. So, women are always dependent on husband? Self reliance is gender blind.
Having children so that they will take care of you when you grow old is probably the stupidest life decision you will make. What really would take care of you during your gloaming days is money. It’s only if you have money will your children even respect you. If you’re broke, no one will respect you. So, cling hard on your EPF money and life savings. Don’t give that money you shed blood to earn so that your children may have the fairy tale weddings that they salivate for or as early deposit for your children’s vehicle/home procurements. You’ve equipped them with education and if they can’t use it to sustain themselves, it’s not your fault - it’s solely theirs. Nowadays, both machas and meenachis only get angry if their favourite Kollywood actors are trolled. They don’t care if their parents who have alluran their pi and uuteram (cleaned your shit and urine) languish alone, uncared for. So, woman or man, make sure you save some money to use when you’re old - never ever pin hopes for your children to take care of you.

Now back to the macha notion that an independent, strong woman is bitchy, prideful and never content, who puts an expiry date to a woman’s dream? Should women only be at men’s beck and call and never have their own autonomy? A guy told us to close down KK and fall at his feet and apologize and he will give us riches and life. He also said that “ambala getthu na chumma illa, oru pottachi eh pessa vachi naa thala kuniyarthikku...Naa onum pottapaiyen illa...Ambala da chellam!!! “ Another one was like, “I want a girl who doesn’t rub her success and the related hegemony on my face.”

So, what I can conclude from this is these machas are only afraid that successful and strong women will seriously bruise their male ego. So, they support all these sexist and misogynistic dialogues from movies and hail them as the truth about girls. Because, they can’t compete on the unisexual level playing field with girls. Why? Because it’s far easier to say strong independent women had it ‘easy’ to clinch the success and that whatever a girl accomplishes its waste because as ambala, he doesn’t need to acknowledge a pottechi’s success or her opinions. It’s like just because they have a penis, they’re entitled to pride which is nothing but kosa dappa. To the guy who said pottachi pesa vachi naa thala kuniyarthukku naa onnum pottapaiyen ille, intha vechikko punch,”Pottachi pechu won her a gold medal in International Public Speaking Competition. Oru pottachi peche keatu UN eh standing ovation kuduthuchu - appuram, Nobel Prize. Oru pottachi peche keatu, Oprah sollirkanga, I thought you were reading from a script but I see you not holding any script. Even native English speakers don't speak so flawlessly," The pottachi is Bharka Dutt. Oru pottachi, Harry Potter eluthi, ellarum, eppo da next edition varum nu thavam kadanthange. Ivinge munnadi, un ambala getthu verum thusu.

Achievement, independence, success are the same for men and women, athu enna pombelengele mattum kevelama peserethu? Un ambala gethu vechi ennathe da pudunge mudiyum? Ambala gethu unakku nalla vele kudukuma ille vela veleki soru poduma? Ille le? Appo yethukku un oru paisaku pirajinom illathe ambala gethe koovi, koovi vikkire?