LOVE doesn’t pay BILLS

Many karat machas out there are ‘ayating’ meenachis with ‘true love as deposit. They will quickly label meenachis who demand for machas with financial stability as money minded. In fact, these karat machas make it sound like meenachis have made the biggest mistake in their life by asking for machas who are financially stable. They even say things like ‘aval kaasu, panam parthu love pendra’ (she looks at money before falling in love). Ok, so what? What’s wrong with loving a man who is financially stable?
Or the Indian society thinks that the best way for their daughters is to marry a macha who only gets her pregnant and then, to hell with her how she raises her kids? Each time we ask machas –ok, how do you sustain a family with true love alone? YES, exactly pin drop silence and these machas ridicule us by calling us money minded. It’s funny to see such machas promoting themselves just by lip service. They solely depend on ‘ayating’ skills to land a gullible meenachi and they expect meenachis to take them as life partners based on this.
Meenachis are suckers for sweet, endearing lines and they fall very hard for it. Call them ‘bujji ma, yen pondatti, yen muyal kutty, yen chellam, whatever and you will see these meenachis melt like ice cube on a hot day. Dear meenachis, he can call you chellam for your whole life but that won’t help to pay bills, buy groceries and give you a comfortable life. If you think ‘chellam’ and true love will sustain you with a jobless, penniless macha – then you are going to be very sorry in the long run. Don’t get me wrong. We meenachis don’t intend to wash our hands when it comes to financial stability. We earn too and if our husband wants to be a homemaker while we be the breadwinner, it’s perfectly fine. What is not fine is, the meenachi supporting her husband’s exploits like drinking, smoking and gallivanting. You either complement or be financially compatible, not be a cadging asshole.
You don’t want to live a life where you have to basically stretch yourself think between paying the electricity bill, water bill, school fees and groceries each month. You don’t want to live a life where you have to give shit excuses to the house owner on rental money while your irresponsible macha hides in the room. You don’t want to be borrowing money from your neighbours when your kids are admitted to hospitals. You don’t want to be queuing up for donations, rice packets or flour from political parties. You don’t want to be spending your life paying back debts incurred by your jobless macha right? You don’t want to end up being featured in the Kannadi program.

Macha might tell you that his grandpa had raised 12 kids with his measly salary last time. Don’t fall for that shit line. Because macha’s grandpa time, economy was different where you can get a bowl of noodles for 5 cent. You can buy food items for RM1 and get plenty of stuff. Today, a bowl of noodles in Ipoh costs RM4.50, KL – RM6.80, KLCC- RM11.00. And yeah, last time there was no GST imposed, there was no toll gate in the estates, and no petrol needed for that bicycle that macha’s grandpa uses for work. Medical seat, tuition fees and living costs overall does not cost a bomb like what we are dealing with today. If you meenachis have been reading the newspapers, there are people complaining that a salary of RM3000 is not sufficient to make ends meet in big cities like KL today. So, if you are gonna believe to macha’s bullshit on true love is more important than money, then you are digging your own grave.

Money is important for sustenance and if you ask any karat machas out there on how they are gonna help you manage and sustain family after marriage, you will get this standard answer – nan ambele, ennaku teriyum eppadi nu, nee ithulam kavalai pade vendam’ (I am a guy, I will take care of this, you don’t have to worry about it). That is most machas’ way of ‘pusing cerita’. How can you trust your life with someone who doesn’t even have a saving account and savings in it? If the macha depends on odd jobs and daily payments how are you gonna even plan your life with him? Let alone saving for rainy days? Dear meenachis, no matter what a macha tells you – money is important. Even if your family members say, ‘panam mukiyam illei, nalla vechiruntha seri (even if he is penniless, as long as he takes care of you well, that is enough). Let us ask you – how the F**k is he gonna sustain life with you if he is not financially stable? If he can’t even sustain himself and depends on his parents for pocket money? If you recall the PD slashing incident where a video is released, the guy will claim that the culprit has stolen his mother’s necklace to buy his wife a handphone. Like seriously? Is that the way to take care of your wife? Rob your mum rather than working an honest job? You ask yourself what kind of life you want dear meenachis. Don’t fall for the ‘ayats’ – they don’t serve you any good in the long run.
Ayat pessi joke venna adikelam, ana valkai ku kaasu rombo mukkiyam. (ayat is good for jokes, but money is important for life).