Machas, Meenachis and Getting Hitched

Getting hitched here refers to getting married in case anyone doesn’t understand what it means. Dear school going kids, we know love is like the greatest thing in your mind at the moment even though you know that your academic achievements are more important. We understand that many of you would just love to quit school, get married and settle down with your karat machas like what is depicted in the movie Moonu.

Do you have any idea why there are many Indian girls out there who are still single, into their late 30s? Some of these girls refused to settle down even when they are successful and highly educated. Have you wondered why?

Because marriage is not about falling in love in matter of few months and wanting that person for life. You still have a long way to go if you are still studying in school to even think of settling down. First of all, you are financially zero – total dependence on your parents for pocket money, handphone top up and school fees. So, inthe vayasule ethuku kalyanam aasai? (Why would you be thinking of marriage at this age?) Okay, okay – love is natural, to fall in love without checking on one’s financial capacity is normal. But come on, you are in school okay.

You need to maintain or improve your academic achievements – whichever that is relevant. Then, get yourself into a university in a chosen field and get your degree.

Then, you need to find a job and build in your bank balances. You need to be stable in your life because marriage is not about you but the next generation. Falling in love and meeting each other in school might appear like the greatest happiness at the moment in your life. In reality, you will have a lot of other things to worry about 10 years from now. From securing a job, paying your personal bills, loans and debt (PTPTN), GST imposed items, petrol money, toll money and the list is never ending, you will have much more to worry about than to get married. Seriously, marriage will be the last thing on your mind. So your main priority when you are in school should be education and how to achieve good results in it.

Love at the age where you are still in school will make you swoon and distract your attention. Let us assure you that you will definitely regret this when you are applying for jobs out there and potential employers tell you that you are not qualified for the job. Love gestures such as giving teddy bears and flowers are acceptable. But, if you are gonna get married like what they portray in Tamil movies – either you are extremely stupid or plain bokena. Then, you get it uploaded on social media for what? For public thrashing? Do you even know that what you have done is wrong? Or you think it’s rad to upload controversial stuff on social media? Think of how it will affect your life 10 years from now on? Yes, people may not remember your face 10 years from now but what if these pictures of you playing marriage in school surfaces when you are at the peak of your career? Or when you have decided to settle down with another guy? Just use your bloody brain for once and think how such pictures that you have taken now will haunt you in the near future.

Dear meenachis who think your love is so great – you will meet many guys in your life. These guys will be better educated with matured outlook in life. So, do not limit yourself to that boy that you fancy in school. Do not quickly accept any proposal from any random guys simply because you think you should have a boyfriend in school. You have yet to learn the economics of life so do away with the whole marriage thing. You can fall in love but avoid drastic actions of indulging in marriage in school. It will get you nowhere.

Best way to handle love in school is to motivate each other to achieve good results and secure a place in public universities. That will help the both of you to establish a good life in future. Ethu senjalum, plan panni seiyanum. (Always have a plan for everything). ‘Eduthom kavuthom nu irukka kudathu’ (Should never make rash decisions). Valkai le eppothom nithanamum thoora nokku sinthanaiyum vendum (Always practice patience and foresight in life).