Men above 40 and 50 rejecting women of their same age

It’s baffling that women who are looking to marry are faced with various issues and little choices. For Indian women 35 above, finding someone age and qualification compatible to marry is increasingly becoming difficult.

A message in inbox came to us - about a 40 year old woman who is looking for someone to date. She gave an example of a 45 years old macha on tinder. He is looking for women only in the age bracket of 28 - 35. This means he wants a woman at least 10 years younger than him. Apparently, it’s almost impossible for her to find a guy in his 40's who is open to someone who is 40 and older.

The personality traits they list also too lofty - for example, humble, has motherly values, non materialistic, pleasant personality and good in managing household, inter alia. Now, what I don’t get it is, machas are free to expect so much but ladies are quickly reprimanded if they list out expectations. Also, machas list sometimes over the top expectations, fair skin topping the list.
This lady, is a lecturer and she really wants to get married but she’s having problems finding a person in her age range - most people will introduce her to men 10 years older or more. She’s a lecturer but the only men she gets introduced to are non grads, technicians and other men who are of lower qualifications than her. Using her age as the excuse, these people tell her not to be so choosy and accept any guy that comes along. And, they are often younger than her. I tell you, such guys look to have an easy ride for life by marrying older women who are in stable and well paying job. Like the macha who impregnated his 19 year old stepdaughter - he married a woman much older than him who is in a stable job and just hopped onto the fruitful tree that will sustain him for life.
What’s unfair, is people make it seem like she is too choosy but guys in their 40's and 50's can have demands on potential brides, even unrealistic demands and nobody says anything to them about settle for less. If the guy is a lecturer, then lagilah he can demand - everyone will say, but he’s a lecturer. The same doesn’t apply for women - they are bombarded to settle for any lowly and not on parlance fellow.
If you cite biological clock, not only women have it - men have it too. Is it wrong for a woman, an older woman to expect a man compatible to her in all terms? If men can expect and not questioned for settling for less, why it should be any different than women? One needs to be reasonable not?

As long as a guy doesn't have the insecurity and ego issues regarding his wife's accomplishments, supports her and has the drive to pitch in, it's ok - like Sarathkumar in Surya Vamsam - then, even if he's a SPM dropout, it doesn't matter.

~Pattu Mamee~ #OnlyAtKK