Nude pics sharing - a token of true love?

On Whatsapp, I came across a different kind of porn. It has local Malaysian and India touch and the girls who ‘star’ in it are most probably dead by suicide or have their lives shamed for good or be a nadai ponom (a walking dead).

This porn has 2 sides to it - either captured illicitly without the couple’s permission or uploaded without the girls’ consent or allowed by the girl on grounds that it must be immediately deleted. I myself have come across such porn on Youtube, often, with the guy’s face blurred and the girl’s face, clearly visible. It’s from India and given the female restrictive culture and patriarchy there, I have no faith that these girls are alive now.

This type of porn is most often shot illegally and thus have poor resolution due to hidden cameras quality. Yet, guys flock to watch such porn as there is an excitement that the girl they’re going to see is someone who is real, the making out is real, not acted out and the possibility of the girl being someone they know and seen - most often, their friend’s gf. I wonder if these guys feel the same excitement if they come across their sisters’ nude pics anywhere on the net because hey your sister is someone you know.

It’s either that or such porn and nude pics are circulated after girls leave their bfs. To ruin the girls’ image, these fellows release such pics on Whatsapp or WWW porn sites for revenge. Even though you’re not searching for porn on Google, many websites redirect you to such revenge porn sites. Many guys actually shoot themselves making out with their gfs with or without their consent or ask nude pics of their gfs to release on porn sites/whatsapp if their gf leaves them later. It’s either that or to do bandha at their friends by showing the girls’ nudes - showing them what a hot chick they’ve got, to incur jealousy or praise - ‘ macha kuduthu vechavan da nee’ (Dude, you lucky fucker) And this is what these guys call true love. True love does not involve shaming the very person that you love.

This is a serious problem yet the least discussed because it’s done under the name of love which is happening as I speak. On why it’s so effective is because our female restricting Indian society - no matter how much an Indian girl is beseeched, threatened - that he’ll leave her, ridiculed by her bf - that she’s living in her grandma’s time, it’s her fault to send him her nudes or open her legs. If making out is filmed secretly, it’s her fault to agree to make out - I saw in few videos, the girl was pushing the guy away as he was kissing her but he kept at it despite her protests. Yet, it’s the girl’s fault of course. Not the guy’s for intentionally filming the act then release it on the WWW - the girls’ lives are over once it gets onto the WWW. because of our damned culture which blames women for almost everything while saying ‘boys will be boys, you should’ve been more careful.’

On how nude pics exchange happens, the guy would send his nudes first, without the girl even asking - a dick ain’t a pretty sight and neither any girl gets wet seeing a dick. This is just a trap - ‘I sent mine, now send yours’. Snared, the girl takes the bait, sends her nudes and the guy either shows his friends without the girl’s knowledge or when she eventually dumps him after learning what he’d done with her pics or just because he is a putrefying piece of monkey poop, he releases her nudes on WWW as revenge porn so that she will be shamed for life or better still dead. So, you don’t talk to me about aanode kadhal (guys’ love) being truer than pennode kadhal (girls’ love) citing Tamil movies song lyrics. It won’t take long for me to write lyrics rubbishing that claim.

Our society treats women as 2nd class citizens and we’re torn between modern and orthodox ethos - tech advancement and the restriction of females. The latter always pins females culpable, giving males full impunity - even if Indian males’ nudes leak, no one gives a shit - it won’t be shared and most often, deleted on grounds that it’s a non issue. But if it is a girl’s nudes, it will be shared far and wide, the girl, moral policed. This Indian culture is the sole reason why machas are doing this, releasing the nudes of their gf/ex gf, not fearing if the girls do tit for tat - they know nobody cares about a guy’s nudes but a girl’s nudes, everyone scrutinizes and polices. The story below is a real incident:

“An incident happened in my own college.. You know lovers exchange nude pics of each other.. The girl gave em to the boy. And he showed them around to his friends and somehow they finally ended up on the WWW. That girl won't speak to any student since last 2 years. She will sit at a corner in class and all the girls hate her. She is in my same batch, but different department. I too got the pics on WhatsApp. It would've been horribly embarrassing. Later I saw her in college many times. Permanent sad face.”

We can’t change our society’s mindset overnight - it can only be done slowly and by the hatred machas show on KK, it’s an uphill battle. My implore to girls is, PLEASE DO NOT SEND YOUR NUDES VIA ANY MEDIUM TO ANYONE - at least until our society accepts that boys won’t be boys, they too need to face the music for their actions, not only the girls.. No matter how your bf coerces you, snap a pic of you holding an Indian sandal to him with the caption, ‘nudes lam anupamudiyathu, serupadi than anupamudiyum. ithuvum whatsapp le dhan. Intha vechikko chellam.’ (can’t send nudes, only can send slippering. this is from whatsapp too. Take it dear.) If the guy eats rice instead of his own shit, he will never ask nudes from you again.

Why would anyone asks for footage material if it’s not to show others? This is the question every girl should ask when their macha sayang ask for nudes. Machas will malluperan and put ayat - just say that one wrong click can put a blot on the lives of others. WhatsApp images sent by everyone are stored together. If you choose the wrong photo to send to a friend, you can’t revoke it. FINISH.

Even if it’s long distance relationship, send fully clothed pics taken at Mississippi River or Delhi Gate or wherever you are - why send nude pics taken in your dirty bathroom?

If you still want to send or store your nudes or your lover's, whom you really love and won’t harm her even if she dumps you, compress those pics in a Rar file and name it with a silly name and put in deep inside the c drive. You take that much effort for stupid porn clips. If you can take that much exxxxtra caution with porn, you can do the same with your girl’s pics in compromising positions as well. Best is, don’t ask for nudes from your gf. A decent guy won’t do that. The question is macha, are you decent enough to not forward such indecent proposals to the girl you claim you love like your aayul reghai? (life line)