Mayakkam Enna Yamini, How many girls can be like that? - Can You Human Up Please Guys?
You mean you want girls to tolerate physical & mental abuse? LOL.
The character of Mayakkam Enna Yamini was shaped by a guy on how an ideal woman should be just like Sita, Kannagi & Nalayini are. They are patriarchal ideals - like how Renuka was decapitated for a momentary admiration of the gandharvas by her son Parasuram at the behest of his father one of the Saptarishi Jamadagni.
Same Shit. Different Day.
And no, accepting domestic violence isn't the equivalent to being an exalted woman. And, why should we be exalted women - goddess, angel, pure, honourable? What good does that bring to us? 0 good. We only get to be insulted, maligned and even killed when we breach the conditions that mark us as honourable.
Just because a challenge is thrown on girls that can they be like Yamini, it doesn't mean girls should try to prove that they can.
Listen up guys - girls are humans just like you and they have their own individuality. Some may have higher tolerance, others may not and that's perfectly okay.
In Sattham Podathey, Padmapriya's character Bhanu divorces her deceiving, abusive husband - so are you coming to say she's a bad woman?
When Lakshmi Priyaa's Lakshmi short film character has an affair, y'all hollered that she should have divorced her uncaring husband instead of cheating on him.
When characters of women in movies itself are so diverse, imagine how diverse real life women will be? Isn't it a miscarriage of justice to try and fit women into one expectations box, that too a fictional character - that too asking to live with domestic abuse?
Arunachalam Muruganantham's wife left him when he was experimenting making sanitary pads. She returned to him after he succeeded. He accepted her. And, he doesn't complain or make examples like you guys. Why? Because he's secure in his own right. He believed in himself and stuck it out.
Yamini is an irumbu manishi (iron lady) for supporting her husband and not leave him at his worst. But, she's also an irumbu manishi if she walks out on him for the violence he meted on her and builds a life for herself.
The worst thing that's done is defining feminism to suit your patriarchal ideal. This here, he wants an aaya, not a woman living her life as a human, flawed and faulty in its own right.
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| What do you mean 'imitating the act of men?' Infidelity is not the act of men, and you're borderline saying that it's ok if men have an extramarital affair but not women. |
You need to change guys. Learn to motivate yourselves and change yourselves - don't expect a girl/wife to come along and make you move your ass and stick life out with you even if you're an abusive asshole and then call it 'true feminism.' Many Indian women's lives have been destroyed by the saying, "Avanukku oru kaal kattu pottuta sari aidum." (He'll reform if he's married off.)
You can bring a horse to a river but you can't make it drink the water. Exactly like that, no one can change you or make you do things but you yourself - applicable to everyone, men and women.
Quit cribbing and expecting women to bolster your every whim and fancy and tolerate your shit. Women aren't born for you. We are born for ourselves.
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