Subduing Women with Physical Harm – How is it Justified within the Indian Society

Is it okay to subdue women with physical violence/harm? Many women will be quick to answer NO and some will say depends on the situation. Let’s focus on the answer – MAYBE depending on situations. Disappointingly, most of you ladies out there are quick to say this without understanding exactly what this statement means. Imagine yourself in the situation where you will be harmed and you would have definitely answered NO. However, when it comes to other women, you support physical assault for various reasons. Shamefully, some of you even go to the length of justifying such physical harm towards women by saying the women deserve it because they were asking for it.

Remember – physical violence towards women is plain wrong NO MATTER WHAT. Here are some of the examples of how physical violence on women is supported by women themselves:

If you think a woman deserves to be physically harmed by men because you find her annoying, irritating and rude –

If you think a woman deserves to be physically harmed by men because she is loud and vocal with her opinions –

If you think a woman deserves to be physically harmed by men because you think she is spreading gossips, argumentative and is not a team player-

If you think a woman deserves to be physically harmed by men because she doesn’t adhere to cultural and society’s expectations of being a woman –

If you think a woman deserves to be physically harmed by men because she needs to be taught a lesson –

The biggest problem with Indian society is that they justify physical beatings against women as a man’s right. One of the famous dialogues that can be spotted in most Tamil films is that ‘nan un purushan di, unnai adipen, kolluven – athu kekke varukum urimei illei (I am your husband and I have every right to beat you, no one can question me. And for generations, Indian women have normalized this as ‘purushan na adike than seivan’ (husband will definitely beat) and they have learned to not even question such actions.

A few months ago, an Indian guy was slashing his wife with a long knife and that was recorded by the public. The video went viral and many were condemning the guy. However, one Indian lady posted comment – she must have done something or else why he beat her like that. So, you see – women are indeed their own enemy. Here is a woman screaming for her life while receiving blows from the knife but all this idiot of an Indian woman from Malaysia can say is – she must have done something wrong. It is weird that the victim is blamed while the culprit is found not guilty. The case came to an end with the Indian guy being arrested by the police but it is shameful to have such Indian woman who will support the act.

In a separate case in Malaysia, another video went viral with the guy forcing the girl to drink urine because he suspected her of betraying him. As usual, there was one stupid Indian woman who posted comment – she deserves it for betraying him. We at KK argued that if that’s the case then all Indian men who betrayed their wife must drink their wife’s urine. Of course that lady continued to attack us personally saying we are such women as well, hence we are supporting the victim. At this point, we realized that there are so many such stupid, shallow Indian women even in Malaysia who think physical harm against women is totally justified.

Some women even said ‘men will behave like men”. Really? So, if a man thinks he has a right to harm a woman because of the reasons above, it is totally justified? Well, this is so pathetic because indirectly you women are the main reason to other women being harmed. Because you are being selective and you do think that it is okay for men to harm women in certain situation. Please don’t be irrational and say – what if the woman is a murderer? We are not talking about female murderers but common women within the society. When you justify such acts, you can be a victim one fine day because you supported that a woman deserves to be physically harmed by men due to the reasons above. You paved way for such things to happen and you are indirectly succumbing to the patriarchal notion that men have the right to subdue women with physical violence. You may say – not grievous injuries but it is okay to slap or beat a woman. So, where do you draw the line to physical violence? Don’t start something that may lead to women being a casualty at the end – because what you see as harmless support, may cause another woman physical injuries or death.