"She's a gamer? Marry her!" - Why this is imbecilic

"After meeting a girl who likes video games as much as I do, thinking to myself - God, do ur magic & make her my wife. Dream of every male gamer."

This is as stupid as saying after meeting a boy who likes baking as I do, thinking to myself, "God do your magic and make him my husband."

Add to the list of gaming, "If a girl can make round dosa/doesn't watch serials/likes cricket, marry her!"

Only an immature person will make the decision to marry another person based on only one facet of another individual. Life needs much more than that.

There is nothing wrong in expecting (But Tamil guys get so angry when Tamil girls expect a financially stable guy to marry - ignoring the fact that Tamil girls are still being raised with the notion that their purpose in life is to get married) but you gotta be sensible and act like a frigging adult, not like a kid in a candy store.

For saying this, I was called an unhappy feminist. Apparently for saying that you need to get to know a person before committing and not rely only on a singular expectation somehow makes me a crotchety spinster deprived of conjugal bliss.

Diatribe ain't new for me so I am not giving a damn to it. I just want to ask, is it ok if the girl is a gamer and have other unfavourable qualities, qualities that may put the whole marriage on the rocks? It's important to be thorough and get to know a person before even getting into a relationship what more marriage - gaming quality is only good for instant attraction, not lifetime commitment. I like baking but I can't marry a guy who bakes just for that one quality. There is more to life than that. It needs maturity to even understand that. It has nothing to do with feminism but everything to do with life skills and wisdom. Gaming can be one quality, not the whole criteria.

The same dolt asked that just like I don't like to be 'judged as a feminist' (Umm, I don't think being a feminist is bad) what makes me think that the gamer girl won't have the qualities I am referring to. What qualities did I refer here? Qualities of a person are highly individualistic. Why quote things I never said? And, what makes him think that a gamer girl would by default somehow have all the qualities that are essential to hack life out? The guy got mangekyou sharingan is it? The only way to find out is get to know the person. A prompt conspicuous quality found desirable in a person can quickly turn undesirable as other less serendipitous qualities emerge as one gets to know the person.

The guy threw this sexist hiss fit after that, "We guys don't need to go to the extend to sit, write an essay about a girls qualities and determine if she is fit for us "GUYS."

Yeah, yeah, you guys indeed are psychics - you see a girl and you instantly know that she's made for you. I say go easy on Tamil movies' ideals - essay on the qualities of girl you want to marry it seems. I'd like to see how your life goes after marrying a girl you met when gaming at an arcade - not knowing her other compatibility as in intellectually, level of understanding, etc.

And then this very amusing tantrum, "Btw, don't judge a person by his or her's profession. Even a baker can make his love of his life as happy within his means. Your missing out on a chance with a baker. imagine getting up to a smell of fresh bread and cakes..... The old saying goes, a way through a girls heart is through her tummy, not qualities."

And, where did I judge that a baker can't make money? What an elan for conjuring fibs up! Know who's Wolfgang Puck? I meant baking as a passion like gaming. I myself bake and I never underestimate baking or any profession. See how your sexist mindset works. Don't change sayings to suit your argument whims dude. It's, "The way to a man's heart is through his tummy." The, 'not qualities' is an extra fitting. If liking gaming isn't a quality, than what is it? Do you even listen to yourself talking dude? Anyway, the abiding by that adage is why Indian men are dropping dead untimely due to heart disease - very bad saying to apply in life.

Then, he made sense but he doesn't realise that that is what I've been saying all along,"Not all qualities are self build as soon as Ur born...that LIFE, SKILL and WISDOM u talk about,some are learned during the process of life, regardless if Ur in or out of a relationship.
And it's a process we all go through. LEARNING."

Exactly. Even if the person you marry doesn't game/bake/watch LOTR, you can interest them in those afterwards. And bond and become closer in the process. They need not need share your passion from the outset. They can learn from you and grow to love it and love you more in the journey.

Gaming isn't enough a criteria to choose a partner for a lifetime, dependent on that one criteria - it's as stupid as wanting to marry a girl who can identify pestle and mortar or marry a guy who makes 20K per month. Guys really need to consign their uppity infused stupidity and choose a girl wisely, not for shallow reasons.