Machas who are only motivated to go to work because of a girl

Was watching a Tamil movie the other night in a passing way. The hero was like, “Naama veleiku poyi sambarikuredhe love pandre ponnu kaage thane. Avale namakku illathe bothu naama yethukku veleiku poghanum?” (We go to work and earn for the girl we love only. When it’s known that she is not ours, why should we go to work?). So, you won't be eating and surviving without a girl?

I don’t know why Indian men’s views in Tamil movies are so twisted. And, our machas’ perspectives sometimes tailgate from such logics from Tamil movies.

You go to work and earn for the girl you love and without her, you don’t see the point in working and earning? Exactly, how do you expect anyone to even allow their daughter to mingle with you when you don't have any source of income? Girls do go through breakup and rejection in their lives as well. You will see them back at their desk at work the next day itself (not because they don't have feelings but they know how to separate both personal and professional problems). In fact, many girls will indulge themselves with bigger responsibilities at work so that they can forget about their breakup. This is what we call a positive approach towards a personal problem.

However, machas are always seen to associate anything to everything to girls in their life. What a pathetic excuse? From learning English to getting employed, you need girls as motivation? Employement portrays your academic achievements, skills and talents. It also projects your character and attitude towards building a future. You should be proud that you are using your brains, talents and skills to develop yourself and your company. You should go to work for your family. For how long do you expect your parents to support you with 'oosi soru" (free food)? You think your salary should go only for your girlfriend or wife? So, what about your parents who have raised you all this while? Don't you think the minimum you can do is to now feed them with your earnings? Be responsible and uplift your family instead of making a girl the focal point of your life. Life le love theve than, but love eh life ah aide kudathu (Love is important in life but love should not be the prime focus of your life).

You should go to work for yourself. Build a repertoire for yourself. Develop yourself in life so that your life collectively improves. You are a unit in our society and it’s very important to be a functioning unit that adds value into our society. If you have concern for our community and the way it’s heading, you’d study hard and work harder regardless there is a girl in your life. Recognition, life partner and promotions will come based on how hard you put effort to elevate yourself. Inthe ponnu, pugzhal, peru - ithulam namma pinale varanum. Namma athu pinnale pogha kudathu (girls, title and commendations should come after us. We should not go after it - famous lines by Superstar Rajinikanth). Why is it that machas always overlook the good things that Superstar says?

Agreed, the presence of a girl in your immediate life provides an impetus for you to go search for a job. But for God sake, don't wait for a girl to come - baru nak terhegeh-hegeh cari kerja. Your relationship is doomed to be a failure. Besides, after completing studies, getting an employement is an automatic step. It is not a choice for you to waste time doing nothing after completing your studies. You will want to demonstrate to the girl that you will be able to pitch in in taking care of each other and the children in the future. Ellam saridhan, nallathu than, aana ponnu kaaga mattum veleiku porethu sari ille. (All is correct, understandable but going to work only to impress a girl isn’t right.) because, if the girl leaves, the dialogue above will come up which is toxic for your life, your family and the whole community. Have your own job goals, don’t make your goals for a girl. Truly, it’s not worth it.