Meenachis, cheating husbands and Divorce

Most meenachis today are less tolerant to their husband betraying them simply because they can fend for themselves. Hence, they don’t have to put or compromise with their husbands’ philandering attitude. Many of them have filed for divorce and walked away from marriages, earning the ire of the Indian society. The Indian Society, does what it does the best for generations – blame and shame the women no matter what.

Ippo ulle ponnu lam konjum konjum divorce kekurangge (Nowadays, ladies have high tendency to file for divorce). Like seriously? Husbands fucking around with another woman is a small problem? Indian women who left their husbands and decided to lead a single life will quickly be labelled – valla vetti. We seriously don’t understand the Indian society. Her husband cheats on her – no one labels him ‘theru nai’, ooru meiyure poriki, she files for divorce and walks away (she is valla vetti)? Indian women are expected to forgive and accept their ooru meiyure husband back like nothing happened? If anyone (lawyers, friends) advised these ladies to continue with the divorce process, everyone (the straying husband, in laws, society) will label them – kudumbathe pirikirangge, purushan pondati pirikirangge (splitting the family, splitting husband and wife). Like really? Did the husband think of kudumbam and pondati when he was fucking around with another woman? Did the husband think of the children when he was sleeping with another woman? So, an ambele is free to do anything without weighing out the consequences but a woman must always compromise for the sake of family?

If an indian wife strays, the society will be the first to sympathize with the husband. Avan pavom, nallaven, avalukku arippu (Pity him, he is a good guy, she is itchy). Avan eppadi lam parthukittan (he took good care of her). So, when a husband strays, did he think of how much his wife had loved and cared for him? Nope, that doesn’t count at all. See, in the case of meenachi straying after marriage, even her parents will support the husband. However, if a macha strays after marriage, his parents will say – avan ambele, appadithan, pondati than nalla buthi solnum (he is a guy, he is like that, wife must advise him). Yenda in the double standard? Yaaru senjalum thappu thane? (A wrong is a wrong regardless of gender). But we all know very well that that’s not how the Indian society works – it’s always the women’s fault. And, the parents will be the first to encourage their son to file for divorce and marry another woman if meenachi strays. Ippo matum engge ponachi ungge kudumbathe pirikirangge, purushan pondati pirikirangge dialogue? (Where did your splitting the family, husband wife dialogue go in this situation?)In fact, the society will be glad to offer their daughters to the so called nallaven who has filed for divorce.

Some ooru meiyure husbands will blame the divorce lawyers- adhuthavan kudi kedukuruthu than ungge veleiya? (Is it your job to ruin other people’s family?) ooru meiyure naiye kelvi kekuthu paaru? (Ironically, the straying dog asks the lawyer this question). So, applying for divorce kudiye kedukum, but straying and fucking another woman kudiye kedukatha? Look at how conveniently the blame is laid on the lawyers by these shameless cretins. Pondatiye vechi vala thuppu illei, you are blaming the divorce lawyers. If you have been a good husband in the first place, why do you think your wife is applying for divorce? (We know some sore machas will quickly jump at this and say not all machas are like this – we are not talking about you then, move over). Stop blaming your wives and lawyers. And stop giving examples like – my grandmother, mother all lived with their husbands forever even after the straying, abuse and beatings. Well, if your grandmother, mother had good education, independent, good job and salary – nope, they will not have tolerated the shit that your grandfather, father had put them through. In fact, they would have walked away as well. So stop blaming and shaming meenachis who apply for divorce due to husband fucking another woman on the side. If you can't forgive and accept an adulterous meenachi wife, there is no reason why a meenachi should forgive and accept an adulterous macha husband.