Meenachis – SEX is not EQUAL to TRUE LOVE

SEX is an intimate exchange between two individuals who are deeply in love with each other. Usually, it symbolizes union through marriage between a man and a woman. However, sex today has taken a different definition. Among the Indian society, sex is a taboo but is practised quietly with machas having mistresses and meenachis losing their virginities to random karats in the name of love. We have received numerous complaints from meenachis on how they were dumped after sex by karat machas.

Dear meenachis, etha nambi sex ku okay soningge? (How did you agree to have sex without any ties?) Yes, we are aware of many karat machas who graduated from School of AYATING and they can melt your heart with a couple of sentence. But does that warrant having sex with them? What makes you think these karats are not looking at you as just an easy lay? Some meenachis think that by giving in to sex, they will be able to ‘lock’ that karat macha to marry them. Well meenachis, if he happens to be a player, then ‘locking’ him will be out of question. He will screw you and walk away once it is done. He is basically building up a resume on the number of women he has had sex with – so that he can brag that he is a STUD. You are just another number to the statistics that he is keeping count off.

When karats give you that line ‘If you love me, then you will have sex with me- be alert because he is using that LOVE word to mellow you down and spread your legs for him. Karat machas know that girls will fall for that LOVE word or maybe he will use endearment words such as ‘My Pondatti’ or ‘My Wife’. Don’t let yourself be conned with that unless you have registered your marriage officially. You don’t want this guy to wash his hands over you after screwing you for sex. Many machas today can just claim publicly that they were using you for fun and sex without any plans to marry you. Of course, the society will not bat an eyelid to what these machas have done. Instead, they just turn around and ask the meenachis - Appa Amma mele bayam irunthechinaa anthe girl poyirukkumaa? (Will the girl go with the guy if she has fears of her parents? Where is your integrity girl? How could you sleep with a guy without any proper relationship? STUPIDITY.

So, you see meenachis – these are the types of comments that KK has to deal with when we speak for you girls. Each time, when we defend girls who had lost their virginity to random, karat machas – these are the type of arguments we get. The society blames ONLY the girls for giving in when in comes to sex. Machas ayating, cheating and tricking meenachis into having sex with them do not count at all. Nobody blames them. The society expects meenachis to continuously stand at guard of their body, mind and decisions while machas are free to fuck around without having to worry about consequences. Ever heard of the phrase – friends with benefits? Well, it means you are only friends with a guy even if he has screwed you so many times. He may buy you Starbucks coffee or take you out for dinner at an expensive eatery but he takes it all back in the form of sex. This scenario happens around big towns like KL, so be careful when a guy spends so much for you. Chances are he is expecting something else in return. At the end of the day, it is better to be safe rather than sorry.

Yes, sex is individual preferences but make sure you don’t end up regretting it after spending the night with random guys. Sex bonds two individuals intimately. So, unless you have been working the streets at night, there is no way you will be able to put any sexual encounters behind you and pretend that it’s just another extra-curricular activity. You will be emotionally and psychologically affected when you are dumped. Of course you're free to engage in sex but don't do it if you are not ready for the sexist consequences. We are trying to change the sexist status quo in this issue but it's an uphill battle and we're called names for standing up for you. So, dear meenachis – don’t fall into that sex equals to true love trap - sex is primal, true love is a matter of heart and control. Sex is never about true love . if a guy loves you truly, for what you are, he’ll wait until marriage and will not ask for sex again after his first request for carnal pleasure was turned down by you. such guys are anything but dime a dozen though.