Straying Indian Husbands and Society’s Perception

We have recently written on how machas who are married, who have kids and yet still commit adultery with foreign workers shamelessly. A number of the middle class indian households have this mentality that it is the fault of an indian wife if a husband strays. The society faults the wife for not giving him enough attention or not taking enough care of him. Some can bluntly say that the wife is not satisfying her husband in bed, hence he found another alternative. Like seriously? Did you guys even listen to yourself when you make such outrageous comments? If an indian wife gives the same excuses for straying or cheating her husband with another man, will you be able to accept it?

Now, back to the accusation that if a married macha strays, it is because of his wife not giving him enough attention. Ok, first – why the fuck did you even get married, macha? Why did you tie the sacred rope (thali) around a meenachi’s neck? Why did you walk around the fire, holding your wife’s hand? Why did you have a priest reading all the sacred mantras during the wedding? Why did you invite all your relatives and friends to witness the wedding? The reason why you do all these is to declare that you will be always faithful to your spouse at all times, until the day you die. So, what makes you throw away everything in seconds just to have some sex romp with some foreign worker? And you conveniently blamed your wife as not giving you enough satisfaction and attention at home? If your wife did that, saying that you are not capable of satisfying her sexually – how would you feel? Especially when you have been working hard to earn more money to provide her with a good life…So, if your wife has been working hard to also provide to the family, do you think it is fair to blame her on not giving you enough sexual gratifications?

The problem with married machas is that they know what they are doing is downright wrong but they won’t admit it. They would cowardly blame their wives for the adultery to escape from taking the responsibility of cheating on their spouse. Most married machas who have an affair with foreign workers feel that if foreign workers are attracted to them, then they must be some desirable ‘manmadhar kunju’. The reality is that these married machas are earning very less, still expecting their wives to buy them jatti, singlet and shirt. Their salary alone is not enough to run the family hence the wife goes to work to help out. But these ungrateful machas couldn’t care less. But these are the same machas who will go smashing, hitting, beating and murdering their wives out of plain jealousy or suspicions.

If the wife gets suspicious and starts questioning the macha, he will quickly pretend like ‘Uttama Puthiran’. Enna di, padicha thimiru thane? Athan ippadi lam kekure? Tamil padam parthu kethu pore? (You are arrogant because of your high education. That’s why you are suspicious of me and you are influenced by Tamil movies). These married machas who stray will try to hide their affairs from their wives for as long as possible, turning the blame on their wives all the time. What’s worse is that some machas will even use the ‘sattiyem’ (swear) angle. They will swear on their mother, kids and wife that they are not straying even when they are actually fucking around with foreign workers. My God, the lies that such machas tell and the best part is that the parents who know the macha’s adultery will keep quiet or try to keep it a secret. The last person to know about the adultery and macha’s affair will be the poor wife that he has married. The in laws will hide the fact simply under the excuse that ‘Enggalukku teriyathu’ (We don’t know at all).

When the wife finds out about the affair, then the in laws and the macha himself have the audacity to ask – What have you decided? Like WTF? What do you think the wife will decide? Any meenachi with a sound mind, good job and position will quickly file for divorce and walk away. Simply because meenachis don’t have to tolerate unfaithfulness from machas for any reason. And trust in marriage – once broken, it can never be the same. However. most Indian families with sons don’t understand this.

There are in laws who will tell the meenachi – ‘Give him 6 months more and he will be alright. Like WTF? When a married macha strays, meenachi must give him 6 months’ time to change? While is a married meenachi strays, she is beaten, abused and murdered simply out of suspicions? Well, time has changed and meenachis who have husband who stray – walk away, you don’t have to tolerate the mental stress. And love is not alms; you don’t have to beg for it. The right man will love you truly and will remain loyal to you forever.