Why Indian Men get intimidated with Feminism?

I feel the need to write on this after going the numerous comments and inbox messages that we received up to date. Indian men were flocking at KK’s page for a variety of reasons and many of them claimed that they came here after reading the news link. They started questioning KK on what our intentions were in the first place, then moving on to blame that we are looking for cheap publicity. Some even said we are corrupting Indian women by advocating Western culture such as sexy dressing, drinking alcohol and smoking. Some accused us for wanting to have free sex and whore around while others said we were not brought up well by our parents. So, we couldn’t help wondering why so much of negativity towards feminism. A few Indian guys posted in the comment section – feminism is cancer. Why do they think that way?

For generations, Indian women were oppressed to the level that they had to suffer from physical and mental torture in the name of marriage. Abusive, cheating Indian husbands continue to thump their chests and say ‘Nan ambele (I am a man)’ and continue their ill, perverted acts. The Indian women kept quiet and bear it all, because the society told them – it’s your fate (nee vanggithe varen appadi). I witnessed my aunts running at the call of their husbands and serving them even the simplest task – like getting a glass of water. These men won’t even lift their finger to do one work at home and will lord around, continuously reminding their wives that they are ‘kan kande deivam’ (god on earth).

 But, education has liberated women in terms of rational thinking and many have collectively realized that they don’t have to put up with such abuse at all. What was accepted as fate by their mothers and grandmothers were negative result of illiteracy and social conditioning. Feminism demands equal standing and respect for women on par with the Indian men. How does this affect the Indian men? They can’t lord over, belittle women or make them feel guilty for indulging in activities that were previously dominated by men. Indian men will lose control over women because rationality will override religious and cultural shackles. Feminism means Indian men will be held accountable for their attitude and behaviour. They can no longer hide behind ‘nan ambele, enna venalum seiven’ (I am a guy and I can do anything).

Of course, this also means they have to pull their weight when it comes to household chores instead of lazing around, waiting to be served. Feminism brings women up to a position where they can bargain and make decisions, independently without fearing of what the men in their household will say. Thus, Indian men have no excuses anymore to force the Indian women into submission. They will have their power and control over the Indian women literally stripped off. This leads to panic among many Indian men who resort by shaming KK, for spearheading feminism among Indian women. ‘Lady – go check the capati on the stove or that’s the cooker whistle lady –enough talking’- typical way of the typical Indian men’s mind set in dismissing woman, conveniently reminding her that her job is in the kitchen.  Well dear Indian guys – if it’s your cooker whistling, why don’t you go switch it off? Ohh, you don’t know how to do it right? Well, learn from now on because feminism means you are going to do all that on your own. We Indian ladies understand that cooker whistles, capati burning on the stove, washing machines and making your own coffee can be a very scary thought indeed – but you need to buckle up dear Indian men. Feminism does not include being at your beck and call anymore.

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