Why you are not married yet?

Well, Deepavali came and I attended a family gathering where everyone was seated at the tables with food served in buffet. Nothing much about the celebration but things that I have expected to happen on that day.

One of my aunts came and sat beside me. I was thinking in my heart – Oh, ok here comes the question…..

It took 5 minutes before she went into the golden question – So, how’s your life? What kind of guy you are looking for?

I am not sure why people think life for a single woman will be lonely and miserable without a man. Why do you think you must ask me that question?

I replied politely by the way – “Life is good. I am looking for someone who has equal qualifications to me and will be suitable for my life’…

I am not sure why but my aunt was speechless for the next 5 minutes. She just stared at my face and then she retorted – Well, yeah …there is nothing wrong in choosing the right guy for your life.

Woah – that was unexpected, coming from her but I noticed that her body language and what she’s saying does not tally. It’s like she has to say something nice to me but she was probably thinking – How can you say this when you have passed the age of 30?

After that, another uncle came over and sat beside me. Somehow, my relatives think it is okay to ask offensive questions during family gatherings.

“So, when are you going to get married? – that was direct.

“Well, I am going to enjoy life as it is. What’s with the rush to get married? I will marry when I meet someone suitable. – I answered.

“Every time I asked you, you will answer this way “ he said and the conversation stopped there.

Again, the startled look on my uncle’s face. Exactly what do these people expect me to do?

For me to break down and cry?

For me to say that I am desperate for a partner because I am 30 years old?

For me to say that I am willing to accept any random guys as husband?

I have heard of too many stories on the highly educated women who married down and suffered. I was personally horrified when I hear my fellow admin’s cousin’s story. I am seriously not going to marry any school dropout simply because everyone expects me to get married soon. At this point, I have already made up my mind – either marry someone equal and suitable or not to get married at all.

My sister is a divorcee and I stood by her throughout her ordeal of 3 years marriage. I am not going to put myself through such sufferings because everyone thinks I have passed my marriage age. On the question of—How is your life? Well, it is going well and I am handling any challenges in my career just like how others do. Life is good without having to come back to a guy who abuses you and makes you feel bad for having better qualifications than him.