Tagging along son and his wife going for honeymoon - the Indian mother-in-law
Only in Indian society do you see such atrocities and it stems from the patriarchal ideal of "Women should always be dependent on men. As a child and maiden, dependent on father, as a married woman, dependent on husband and as an old lady dependent on son." And, women always having to produce sons to get the respectable status.
This type of interfering with married sons is due to insecurity of the 'other woman'. What if she brainwashes my son and takes him away from me? Women are not given a leeway to be independent - just received a message that said girls are only let to get an education so that there will be credentials to be printed on wedding invitation, not for them to be financially independent. A 23 year old girl of my friend's friend got married recently and her wedding was streamed live on YouTube. The girl never worked before.
This system is created by caste motivated patriarchy and y'all dare to tell MIL and DIL to learn to get along and that the enemy of a woman is always another woman. The enemy is patriarchy and this strife is created by patriarchy. You will debate on whether or not women should be let get an education and not question a shithead uncle saying that if women get too educated, this is the result, they are no longer obedient and womanly and talk too much of feminism on Neeya Naana - just for wanting to eat. Fuck, eating la kuda pombala maari sacrifice panni, ara vaithuku dha sapadanum aam and widows should eat tasteless food to control their 'sexual urges.' This is just the tip of the iceberg - from food to education, see how women are being trampled on in the exaltation of the epitome of sacrifice and emblem of a community and family's honour.
The only solution for this is women getting financially independent, actively choosing their own life partner, have a life of their own, friends, hobbies and passions and retain financial independence to the day they die, not depending on anyone.
Automatically all problems will be solved. MIL will be too busy with her own life, she'll gladly shoo her son and DIL to go for lifelong honeymoon trips, she will take care of herself and not feel insecure because she's financially secure, she'll have a nightlife, outings with friends, casual drinks, she won't insist for grandsons as she knows that granddaughters are just as good and deserve equal opportunities and encourage her DIL to be independent just like her. It's good for the men too but only if they are willing to discard their 'adakki aaluran' shit.
This is only bad for caste purity, culture that controls women and their behaviour as well as NRI maplas wanting young Indian girls to marry and they will say this will break families but hey, your casteism, kudumba kutthu vilakku and family system which is inbreeding (even animals know that they are not supposed to mate with attai ponnu and maaman magan) and causes genetic illnesses and congenital problems in the offspring born out of endogamous wedlock are no longer relevant in this century.
Now, the question is, as youngsters, what are we going to do about this. You showed your power for a fucking bulls' sport but for your fellow partners in humanity, it's, "Girls nowadays don't know how to use dupatta." Because wearing dupatta the way you think it should be worn is the solution for every problem Indian women face. And, #NotAllMen. And the Thani Oruvan punchline on feminism.
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